How to guard against outsiders' interference in your relationship

OUTSIDERS' interference is incontestably one of the major causes of strife in relationships, if not the next in rank after money. Outsider interference is when someone interferes with your relationship by giving you advice that is either of no meaningful impact or is likely to create damages to your relationship.

We can’t do without the outsiders. They are like the oxygen we breathe; we have to inhale even while we sleep. They are not bad to share the world with either and you will always need them at least for emotional survival. So, while you can’t do without them, you can manage them.

In truth, a chunk of your life will have to accommodate the outsiders. They help you get around the day and somehow, they add bright colours to your life. You know how you feel when you have a sis to chat with while you go shopping at PrimeMart, or when you so need to share a little secret with an ally about some cute, angelic guy you bumped into after church service on Sunday, or when you share some time at a beauty salon with your talkative, fun-to-be-with next-door neighbour.

You need the outsiders, but you don’t need their interference in your love relationship. Period!

There are ways you can conveniently block out this virus and protect your love relationship from being corrupted! And that done without being offensive. But first, let’s delve into why you need to be very mindful of the Outsiders: 

1.OUTSIDERS’ INTERFERENCE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP CAN ADD NEGATIVITY TO THEM. TOO MANY HANDS SOUR THE SOUP.                     

Yes, very absolutely! Because the concern the outsiders show via words, though most times harmless, can lay a stone in your heart and ignite your subconscious into embracing doubt, suspicion, irritation, insecurity…, thus worsening the situation. In turn, you become a threat to the oneness you were ordered to share (and they shall be one flesh). It’s like setting out to demolish the foundation of your relationship with your own self.

I will rather advise you to ignore the outside and work on the inside. When you have a grip on the inside (by exploring your feminine charm), nothing on the outside should be a threat.

2. YOU MAY BE AT RISK OF FALLING PREY TO A PREDATOR. WELCOME HOME, DINNER!

An outsider may not be the angel you envisage her to be, especially if she is a friend (I’m very blunt on this!). Either you or your soul mate may be the target, and you may realize you just walked into a trap by welcoming her interference in your relationship. Life is a bet. Sometimes you are likely to find things in places you didn’t place them, but the good thing about life is you have the unquestionable privilege to be on guard. Make friends and enjoy friendship. But don’t get too close and always watch your back. 

MY POINT ACTUALLY…

Always resist the urge to call in outsiders to vent your frustration anytime you have issues in your relationship. It’s nothing more than attempting to destroy a building with a bulldozer. Doing that is tantamount to spreading unfavourable thoughts about your man to the outsiders. You will eventually forgive him when the issue is resolved, but outsiders, out of concern, will retain the issue and the position they hold on it for a long time, even without you knowing it. The role they play just doesn’t make sense!

You two are ONE. Don’t leave room for outsiders to belittle your man. If you do, it will produce a poison within your relationship that will bring forth a harvest of trouble in the days to come. Most certainly.

HOW TO HANDLE THESE HYENAS?

Here are my three no-nonsense guides on how to guard against outsiders’  interference in your relationship:

1, Always see your relationship as a major asset of your life. Position it in your subconscious as too precious to you to be toyed with by anyone.
2, Be selective about who you hang out with, and for those you hang out with, set boundaries. Draw the line by avoiding discussions that are luring. In other words, you must guard the entrances of your heart, that is, your mouth, ears, and eyes, being your possible links to outsiders’ interference.
3, Lastly, avoid being in an outsider position to your friends, relatives, and neighbours. They will appreciate your interference in their relationship at some point, and they will naturally expect an invitation to interfere with yours. 

Hugs.